When things get hot, stay COOL.

By Cristin Van Horn & Margaret Barschow

At Jane, we are no stranger to a lil’ heat. In fact, we typically prefer it nice and sweaty, but keeping your cool when the heat turns up, is the mark of a real JANE. We aren’t talking about pit stains, we are talking about remaining in the driver’s seat, when life shoves you into the HOT seat.  We’ve all been there- someone cuts you off on your way to work, you spill coffee all over your new white jeans, or your toddler throws their 97th tantrum of the day. How do we remain mindful in moments of red hot heat?

Screaming F%$# might feel good, but learning how to dust ourselves off and move forward in a constructive way, is far better than getting hotter than the summer heat.  Not only can anger be physically toxic (hello hypertension), but running on pure angry adrenaline drains your resources for the things that really matter- like making a plan and SOLVING THE PROBLEM.   
 

The conscious effort to RESPOND, rather than REACT makes all the difference.  Just like in the studio, what you DO creates a habit, and our habits create results.  Start to make it a habit to check in with yourself. Ask yourself “why am I getting so heated?” Regardless of the answer, your feelings are your feelings, respect them!  When we create the space to ask WHY, we can create an attainable action plan to move on..

Jump into the studio to drain the lymphatic system which acts like a highway for nasty toxic stress. DO-ing it in the studio releases endorphins that will help to calm you down, so that you can see a solution more clearly.   Not only will you be able to clear your mind but you’ll have the support of your GRLGANG!


Sometimes we like it hot, but when shit hits the fan, hatch a plan to respond-not react, in a way that continues to move you forward. Keep your cool, and remain in control...And if you’re really at a loss, never underestimate the power of a frozé. 

Jane's Book Club - Summer Reads 2018.

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1. Little Fires Everywhere, Celeste Ng. 
Recommended by Danielle DeAngelo & Jacey Lambros

Mia starts as Mrs. Richardon's tenant, then becomes her housekeeper, then a mentor and secret keeper for her children; Pearl falls into a love triangle with the two Richardson boys. Like Shaker Heights, "Little Fires Everywhere" is meticulously planned, every storyline and detail placed with obvious purpose.


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2. Tiny Beautiful Things, Cheryl Strayed.
Recommended by Renee Frangione

Cheryl Strayed's Dear Sugar columns give us 'a very real sense of a complicated, painful life behind the advice'. Cheryl Strayed is already something of a phenomenon in the US, where her hiking memoir, Wild, held the No 1 spot on the New York Times bestseller list for seven consecutive weeks last year. You can buy the book here.


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3. The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo, Amy Schumer.
Recommended by Katie Hamrah

In The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo, Amy mines her past for stories about her teenage years, her family, relationships, and sex and shares the experiences that have shaped who she is—a woman with the courage to bare her soul to stand up for what she believes in, all while making us laugh.

 


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4. You Are a Badass, Jen Cincero.
Recommended by Mazz Mazzeo

You are a Badass by Jen Sincero is an entertaining read with plenty of real-world advice. Her book aims to empower any readers and teach you how to stop doubting yourself and get stuff done. Sincero helps to identify key problems in everyone's life, she then explains how best to combat these hurdles and live the best life you can. Whether you want to start a business, learn how to make extra money or get another job this book is an excellent guide!


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5. Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. 
Recommended by Margaret Barschow

A few years ago, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie received a letter from a childhood friend, a new mother who wanted to know how to raise her baby girl to be a feminist. Dear Ijeawele is Adichie’s letter of response: fifteen invaluable suggestions—direct, wryly funny, and perceptive—for how to empower a daughter to become a strong, independent woman. Filled with compassionate guidance and advice, it gets right to the heart of sexual politics in the twenty-first century, and starts a new and urgently needed conversation about what it really means to be a woman today. 

 

 

 

Let that Shit GO!

By Cristin Van Horn, Edgewater Studio Manager

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We all have baggage that can feel heavy at times, but in light of Jacey and Dani’s recent Doody Free* experience, let’s take a page out of their book (or rather a sheet from their roll) and LET THAT SHIT GO!  Put down the baggage and learn to live a little more freely; free from excess crap, free from expectation, and with a little more freedom to DO YOU.  If you need some help, here are some ways to get started:

  • DE-CRAP your closet
    Lucky for you, it’s Spring Cleaning time!  Gather up all of those outfits that are just taking up space and GIVE THEM AWAY!  Give them to a friend, a shelter, or drop them in a clothing drop near you. My golden rule is, if I haven’t worn it in a year- it’s free to go!

 

  • DE-CLUTTER your email
    If you are like me, you have about 375 unread emails in your inbox, most of which are junk mail.  Take a few hours to unsubscribe from all the junk mailers and delete messages that you no longer need.  Come up with a filing system for the emails that you need to keep, so that they are easily accessible, but make your inbox look neat and tidy.  It’s crazy how a clean inbox can help you free up your headspace.

 

  • DE-STRESS your routine
    The everyday commute, back to back meetings, or unchecked boxes on your to-do list can start to feel overwhelming, so come up with ways to de-stress the small stuff, so that you are fresh to take on the big stuff.  Little tweaks can make a world of difference in your day to day. Some of my favorites are:
  1. Wake up 15 mins earlier so that you don’t have to rush.  
  2. Pack up the kids lunches / your own lunch the night before.
  3. Lay out your gym clothes before you go to bed, so there is no excuse not to get up and tackle your workout.  

 

  • DE-PRIORITIZE things that stress you out
    Remember that everything is a choice.  After kids parties, family obligations, and work events, it can feel like you have ZERO time for yourself.  One way to make time for yourself, is to stop saying yes to the things that stress you out and start saying YES to YOU.  Sure little Bobby needs to go to the party, but that doesn’t mean you have to volunteer to make the dessert, carpool the entire neighborhood, and stay for the clean up.  Saying no sometimes doesn’t make you selfish, it makes you SMART!

 

  • DE-CONSTRUCT your expectations
    We live in a Facebook world, where we are constantly seeing pictures of what our lives “should” look like.  But we say LET THAT SHIT GO! Let go of the expectation of what your family, love life, job, or bikini body SHOULD look like and FLIP THE SCRIPT.  Start to see the beautiful way in which you are uniquely YOU. Your one superpower in this world is that you are the only YOU, so embrace it! Find strength in what sets you apart from the rest of the world,  and by letting go of the expectations of others (and the unrealistic ones we place on ourselves) you will finally be FREE to write your own story.

No Rain. No Flowers.

BY CRISTIN VAN HORN, EDGEWATER STUDIO COORDINATOR

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April Showers Bring May Flowers, but the fact is, the rain can slow us down, make us tired, unmotivated, and even emotional.  This April, instead of letting life’s little rain storms weigh you down, we challenge you to play in the puddles and remind yourself that flowers need the rain in order to grow.  There is no way around the storm once it hits, but here are some tips on how to get you through it.

 

  1.  Get by with a little help from your friends

Surrounding yourself with a support system of loving friends and family members is amazingly helpful during difficult times (and even more amazing once the rain has lifted!) If you are going through something you don’t want the whole world knowing, try to find at least one close friend that you can talk to openly.  Venting really does help!

   2.  Give yourself the gift of self-love

Self love and self care go a LONG way when you’re feeling gloomy.  Get a manicure, a new haircut, or try that new spring style you’ve been eyeing (white booties anyone?).  Take a day off and go to the spa, or just stay in and give yourself a face mask, bubble bath, and big ass glass of wine.  Taking time for yourself is an important part of recuperation, and after the clouds lift, your hair, skin, and wardrobe will thank you!

   3.  Pop some uppers

No we don’t mean drugs, EXERCISE is hugely important when you are braving life’s little storms!  It helps to increase blood flow, oxygen, and all those feel good endorphins! Jumping around and breaking a sweat not only lifts your mood and boosts your outlook, but according to the National Cancer Institute, higher levels of exercise are linked to lower levels of multiple kinds of cancer!  And if you train with other Janes, you’ll also be hanging out with some cool supportive women while you’re at it! WIN WIN.

   4.  Mind the important stuff

When life throws rain clouds your way, it is really easy to get wrapped up in negativity.  Try to practice mindfulness in order to keep the important stuff in perspective. Finding gratitude in even the smallest things can help us get through the tough times and practicing mindfulness helps us stay present in the moment, a universally useful tool.  Try to remember the things that are good in your life, even if they seem few and far between: like PIZZA and WINE! Finding joy in little things will help lighten the load when the going gets tough.

   5.  This too shall pass

I try to remember this during Train Jane with Jacey- 30 more seconds of hell, then I can breathe!!  Problems are like that too- you just have to get through 30 more seconds (then maybe a few more rounds) until eventually you will be able to breathe again.  After it, you are stronger because of it. Try to remember that whatever storm you are currently braving will not last forever. Everything passes: the good, the bad, and the ugly will eventually be over.   Unfortunately, no matter how much we wish and hope, we can’t hang on to things once they’ve passed and we can’t rush the things that aren’t yet ready to. So don’t worry after the rain passes, the sun will be back in no time!

How to Get Lucky

By Cristin Van Horn, Edgewater Studio Coordinator

“Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity” -Oprah

Some people call it fate.  Some people call it karma.  Some people call it luck.  But Janes, we are here to tell you to FUCK LUCK.  

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Everyone has a story or has suffered hardships, in fact most of the world has been dealt a shitty hand once or twice.  What separates you from the rest of the people who sit around and complain about their bad luck, is that you are a DOer!  You know that it takes hard work to create the life you want to live and are ready to put in the time and energy to be your best self!  

In case you need a little extra March motivation, here are some tips to create the luck you want and deserve.

    1. Comparison is the thief of joy, so stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Dwelling on what you don’t have is a waste of time and energy.  It is so easy to get caught up in the ‘ifs and buts” of life, but as my mom always said “if ifs and buts were candy and nuts, we would all have a very merry Christmas”.  As in, shut up, stop complaining, and get to work! No one has it all together.  No one has everything easy.  Stop wishing you had it more like someone else, because you are you.  And YOU are in control of YOU.

    2. See your (wine) glass as half full

Don’t underestimate the power of positive thinking! (Or the power of a full wine glass).  We all have bad days or defeating moments, remember to get back up and try again.  Maybe you didn’t get the promotion you were up for, but dwelling in the negative won’t change the outcome nor will it help you get the promotion next time.  Stay positive and keep working.  And remember no one wants to be around a Debbie Downer.

     3. DO it anyway

There are days that we simply just don’t want to.  We don’t want to get out of bed.  We don’t want to go the the gym.  We don’t want to face our fears.  These are the days WE HAVE TO.  The best workouts are the ones you didn’t want to do, because when it’s over you realize that not doing it would have been far worse.  Put your big girl panties on, lace up your sneakers and take on the challenge.  Without challenge there is no change!

     4. Set goals then break them

You can’t get there, if there is no there, there.  In other words you have to know where you are going.  Be specific- run a half marathon, finish your degree, start your own business.  Then when you get there- keep going.  Set new, higher goals.  Remember setbacks are ok and there is no deadline.  You can keep growing and changing until you are 105.

     5. Have a plan and get to work

Positive thinking and setting goals are great, but the real meat and potatoes comes from the DO-ing.  Make a plan that is easy to follow and get to it.  Need help?  Ask.  Don’t know how to do something? Learn.  Plans help to hold us accountable along the way, because if we truly follow our plan, we should see the results we want, or at least progress.  And afterall PROGRESS is PROGRESS.

With your optimism, clear goals, and FUCK LUCK attitude, this March you can take out the wishing and put in the DO-ing.  Don’t worry, you can still drink  green beer, you’ll just know where your luck is really coming from!

3 Keys to Badassery Through Self Defense

By Jenn Cassetta
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At age 20-something, I was assaulted on the street one night outside of my New York City apartment. Thankfully, I was able to scare him off before he got a strong hold on me and there was no real damage done. This led me to get more serious about my martial arts training and learning the life-saving skills of self-defense.

As I trained and grew in the ranks, eventually to 3rd degree black belt, I became not only physically stronger, but also emotionally stronger. I began to have moments of FEELING LIKE A TRUE BADASS. Over time, I realized how much I wanted to share this sense of empowerment and badassery with other women.

Fast-forward almost 17 years later, I am teaching women around the world how to protect themselves physically and emotionally so they too can release their inner badass. For me, self-defense is not just about kicks, punches and blocks, it’s a mindset that all of us can easily achieve. Let’s face it, there comes a time in everyone’s life when someone tries to hurt us emotionally or physically. The more prepared we are for those moments, the more we can POWERFULLY AND GRACEFULLY move on like a badass. Sometimes, we can even avoid them altogether.

 

Here are my first 3 lessons of badassery.

LESSON 1:
AWARENESS

Being fully present is something most of us struggle with these days. Talking, texting and headphones are just a few of the distractions that keep us from being completely aware of our surroundings at all times. Being fully aware means PUTTING AWAY THE DISTRACTIONS and keeping your senses heightened.

LESSON 2:
MARK YOUR TERRIROTY

Create PERSONAL AND PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES and make them non-negotiable. This can apply to people you choose to date, be friends with or associate with. Another way to create boundaries is to apply it to the physical space around you that nobody should enter unless invited into.

LESSON 3: COMMUNICATE POWERFULLY

We communicate both verbally and non-verbally. Many times our message is more powerful by our body language and our tone, than our vocabulary. Walking with your head up, shoulders back and making direct eye contact are all non-verbal clues that you mean business. When communicating verbally, use your tone effectively. Speak with conviction and leave the question marks off the end of your sentences. Say it with me: NO! No is a complete sentence and having the ability and confidence to stick up for yourself (and in all areas of your life) is the first step of communicating powerfully.  

Practice these 3 steps in your everyday life and make sure to acknowledge yourself when you do have the chance to stick up for yourself and practice emotional self-defense. You are a badass!


About the author

Jennifer is one of the top nationally recognized female self-defense experts who speaks to audiences around the country on empowerment, self-defense and health and wellness. Equipped with her third degree black belt and Master's degree in Nutrition, Jennifer has trained clientele that include CEO's celebs, royalty and corporations. She has been a featured expert on My Diet is Better Than Yours, The Today Show, The Doctors, Rachael Ray, E! and many more. 

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Kelsey is Kicking A** in the Activewear Category

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Our girl Kelsey O'Connell has been busy building a dance-inspired activewear line - BELLE FORCE - bringing together graceful, feminine beauty with power and strength - just our style. To create and debut her new line, Kelsey says her inspiration came from always wanting to be a ballerina. And although she hasn't danced seriously for years, she was able to take her dream and combine it with her natural talents of fashion design and business savvy to create beautiful, timeless apparel for dancers and women.  

"Jane DO has played an integral part in my entrepreneurial progress over the last few months, offering a beautiful, friendly, encouraging community to be a part of!" says Kelsey. "The instructors and clients at Jane DO provide so much inspiration!"

Right back atcha @belleforceactive. We love the line, can't wait to wear it, and can't wait to see what you DO next.